Finding Love's Presence

With great enthusiasm, Michael told me how much in love he is with his girlfriend and how amazingly well they connect. They've been together about seven months, and she's moved across the country to live near him to see if things will work out long term.

Mixed with his excitement was also some anxiety. Michaels travels for work and when he is out of town he and his girlfriend always use FaceTime or Skype to visit at the end of the day so they can hear and see each other. However, the previous evening she'd only wanted to talk by phone. Michael felt afraid that meant she was pulling away and was not as "into" the relationship.

Twice before he'd had a similar feeling. He'd felt rebuffed by her in some way. He didn't like it that these experiences made him feel needy towards her, and insecure.