Good Targets Are Specific Targets

How can you improve your results with EFT? Good targets are specific targets.
 
The number one reason why people don’t get better results with EFT is that their tapping target is too big. A "big" target is a
general target. Examples are things like “self-esteem”, “my relationship with my dad”, “the stress at work”, and “my ability to earn money”. If you have self-esteem issues you'll get better results by thinking of one specific memory where self-esteem was an issue for you and tap on that. For example, one moment when someone said something demeaning to you, one event where you were treated poorly as a kid by one of your peers, or one time when you felt like a failure.

In Founder Gary Craig's
Gold Standard EFT we use “specific events” as targets. Specific events are defined as being no more than 2 minutes in length when they happened.  We are working with really small segments of time. Why? Because when you go skinny in terms of the length of time you can go deep with your tapping and more likely get to the root of the issue*. You can generally do better work on yourself with targets that are two minutes or shorter in length. Aiming at a "specific event" typically improves the quality of results with EFT.

* If you are experiencing a lot of emotional intensity it is recommended that you work with the appropriate EFT or healthcare professional rather than working on yourself with EFT.




Expectations and What EFT Can Do

I'd like to bring some clarity to setting reasonable expectations regarding EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) because this is an area that sometimes causes problems for people. You may have noticed that some websites that are marketing EFT (tapping) focus only on stories where tapping resolved a significant problem quickly and completely, with the result seeming almost miraculous. These appear as instantaneous successes and leave the impression this happens all the time.

EFT Founder Gary Craig calls these One Minute Wonders. They do happen sometimes but they are more the exception than the rule and they actually represent only a small percentage of cases. However, they are used to promote EFT and thereby create unreasonable expectations. Then, when people try EFT and they don't experience a One Minute Wonder, they think either EFT doesn't work or they have done something wrong. Some people give up tapping when this happens, feeling very disappointed in the process. Or, they find an EFT practitioner to work with and then feel like the practitioner wasn't very good if they failed to help the client achieve their goal immediately. With more realistic expectations all of this confusion can be avoided.

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EFT: Logic or Emotion?

Have you ever felt frustrated about knowing something logically, but not being able get your feelings on the same page?

For example, "
Logically I don't need to be afraid of giving that speech next Tuesday, but emotionally I'm scared." Or, "Logically I know I should let go of what Betsy said, but emotionally I still resent it." Or, "Logically, what is bothering me happened a long time ago, and I shouldn't be letting it still bother me emotionally."

This kind of incongruence is common when the logical and emotional parts of our brain are not in sync about an issue. Fortunately, EFT is wonderful for solving this kind of dilemma. It's great for getting the two parts of the brain to talk to each other and finally come to peace!



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The Key to Making EFT Simple!

In some ways EFT is so simple: Select a target and tap. Don’t choose too big of a target, smaller is better. Tap until, on a scale of 0-10, you are at a 0.

It gets complicated by thinking that you have to tap a different way for different problems. You actually don’t. You tap in the same way whether you are dealing with emotional trauma, a head cold, or you are mad at Jerry about what he said to you. The principles of effective tapping remain the same, no matter what the target is.
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