What To Do When They Are The Problem
Apr/11/08 21:36
Over and over again I am seeing cases in which clients use EFT to reduce or eliminate their negative feelings where a relationship with one or more other people is concerned and fascinating things happen. I think we all realize that in a dynamic between people if the energy changes in one person it alters the dynamic for everyone. Repeatedly I have seen evidence that when one party uses EFT to get to "zero" everyone changes, and it is always for the better.
For example, one client was not looking forward to resigning from his job because of loyalty to people he worked with. Leaving would make things more difficult for those who still worked there and he felt guilty about leaving. When he used EFT to release the guilt and came to a place of realizing that if he stayed his job he'd just feel stuck and that wouldn't serve anyone, he felt much freer to communicate about the change. Instead of meeting resistance, as he surely would have if he had still been carrying the guilt he was met with understanding.
Another client didn't want to go to a party her parents were throwing. Using EFT she came to the realization that feeling so apologetic was helping to create the negative response she expected from her parents. When instead she decided to address the issue with excitement about what she would do with that evening instead of attending the party she realized her parent's reaction would be more supportive.
So many times we think we are stuck with relationship dynamics, and we wish the other person would change. Until EFT I didn't realize how easy it can be to improve relationship dynamics by changing my end of the stick. The main thing is remembering to tap on the issue and deciding to make the time to do it. For me it's always been worth the time invested at least ten-fold.
Another client didn't want to go to a party her parents were throwing. Using EFT she came to the realization that feeling so apologetic was helping to create the negative response she expected from her parents. When instead she decided to address the issue with excitement about what she would do with that evening instead of attending the party she realized her parent's reaction would be more supportive.
So many times we think we are stuck with relationship dynamics, and we wish the other person would change. Until EFT I didn't realize how easy it can be to improve relationship dynamics by changing my end of the stick. The main thing is remembering to tap on the issue and deciding to make the time to do it. For me it's always been worth the time invested at least ten-fold.