What Should I Say When I Tap?

One of the most common questions people ask is "What should I say when I tap?". First of all, it's a good idea to have a specific target (a specific event, a physical sensation or discomfort in your body, etc.) Once you have that, here is one good way to find some specific words to use.

Just as we have five outer senses (seeing, hearing, feeling/kinesthetic, smelling and tasting) you also have these same five senses in an inner sense. For example, you can see a lemon and pick it up and feel the texture of it's skin. And, you can cut into it and smell and taste it. But you can also IMAGINE seeing a lemon, feeling the texture of it's skin, and smelling and tasting it. You don't have to have a lemon sitting on your counter top to experience a lemon!

When you are tapping on a memory technically the whole memory is internal. But you can still use the external/internal model to help find the aspects necessary to collapsing the issue.


Using EFT to Improve Relationships

EFT is well known for it's ability to reduce negative emotions, but did you know it's also great for improving relationships? It is useful for couples, friendships, family and work relationships, and every other kind of relationship.

One of the best things about working on relationships with EFT is that it only takes one person doing the tapping (you) to bring about an improvement. If both people tap, all better. But it's not required in order to experience an upturn in the quality of the relationship.

As you may already know, EFT addresses negative emotions—and the thoughts and beliefs that go along with them—by reducing blocks in the emotional system of the body (the meridian system). When you have these blocks you are going to respond more negatively than you would without them. Add to this the fact that under stress we get hijacked into our more primitive reptilian brain, and it's easy to see why using EFT would be helpful for relationships.